"As a teen mom, having my son at the age of 18 during my first semester in college, I had no idea how to juggle being a full-time mom, a full-time student, and working enough hours to take care of all the needs of my child. The assistance of foodstamps and SNAP benefits allowed me to put my son in daycare centers while I attended school, feed my son and provide a roof over our heads since my hours of working were limited. In Dec. 2010, I earned my Master's Degree in Information Assurance, becoming the first person in my family to do so! I am currently gold medalist for Team USA women's national football team and consider myself as successful, but if it were not for receiving the foodstamps and SNAP benefits starting out, I wouldn't have achieved any of my accomplishments or been able to give my son the life he deserves."
BIO:
Many people know me as a girl that's full of smiles, laughter, and joy. Believe me, I've definitely had my walk through life!!
Although I had my son at the age of 18, I didn't let this stop me from reaching my life goals! Instead, this helped push me even more. I chose the path of a Computer Scientist/Info Sec Specialist with IBM because I refused to be another statistic. When I told my mother I was pregnant, she lost all hope of me going to college to play soccer (she even brought home some boxes so I would move out), but I pressed on and went on to not only play soccer for Old Dominion University and graduate with a Computer Science degree, I am now an Info Security Specialist by day, a professional tackle football player by night, and a proud mommy 24/7! Some would say I wear an 'S' on my chest and call me 'Super Mommy', but this is my life! My son is my #1 fan and my mom is a proud parent!
The hardest part of getting to where I am, was the challenge of being able to juggle being a full-time single parent, a full-time student, and manage to play soccer for Old Dominion University. Not only did I have these things to juggle, I also had to worry about how I would make ends meet. When my son was about 2yrs old, his father told me that he got me pregnant on purpose because he didn't want me to leave him and go to college. A lot of people think it's the woman’s fault and they do this to trap the guy, but not in my case. Studies have shown that most teen moms grow up to be on poverty, but I refused to be another statistic.
In college, I received TANF, food stamps, WIC, Medicaid and daycare assistance to get by, which helped tremendously. I also received money back from the university to help with rent. On several occasions I stayed up all night while my son was asleep to complete homework! No matter what the weather I pressed on and graduated in 2003!
In 2007, my rookie year of football, one of my biggest supporters, my dad, passed away out of the blue from a heart attack. He attended all of my games and was the loudest person in the stands. He was at my football game one day and gone forever a few days later. Because my son and so many other people look to me for a smile, coping with this loss while simultaneously maintaining my happiness has been the biggest challenge thus far!
My main motivation is my son and the fact that I refuse to be another statistic. So many young girls in the world get pregnant and not know which way to turn. I want to be a role model for them and show them that the sky is the limit! Whatever it is that your heart desires in life, you CAN and will get it. It's not going to be easy, but when there's a will there's a way. As long as you have faith and God on your side anything is possible. My number one priority as a single mom is to show my son that he needs to strive for more in life, more than high school, more than a Bachelors. In Dec. 2010, I earned my Master's Degree in Information Assurance, becoming the first person in my family to do so!
During my journey, I have hit rock bottom and now I'm on my way to the top! After graduating from ODU, I moved to Atlanta to begin my career. I was there for 3 months and could not find a job. I took on a role as a nanny for my cousin's 2 young girls making about $25 a week or so, and my mother helped out and paid my rent. The interesting thing about my journey is that my lowest point was the turning point of my life. I lost all of my government assistance, TANF, food stamps, Medicaid, and daycare assistance all in the same day because of a mistake on their part. This same day I went to a job fair and almost got killed by a random person who chased me up the street as I was walking towards the job fair building and literally threatened to take my life. A few days later I had a message on the answering machine from the recruiter I interviewed with at the job fair giving me a job offer. This was the start of my career and the next message was a message stating that I would be getting back all of my government assistance.
I have recently reached my 2 year anniversary working for IBM and finished my 4th season with the Divas as the teams leading rusher as well as the league's leading rusher. The hard work and determination is definitely paying off! I am extremely excited and proud to say that I was selected as one of the top athletes in the country to be a running back for the first ever Team USA Women's National Tackle Football team. This past June we won the gold medal in the first ever international women's tackle football tournament hosted by IFAF in Stockholm, Sweden!!! We played 5 other countries, including Germany, Finland, Sweden, Austria, and Canada and brought home the GOLD!!!! This is history in the making and I'm so blessed to be a part of it!!!
Being able to play football professionally as a female is a great accomplishment for me personally and for women in general. There have been so many barriers that we've had to overcome throughout history. The only downfall is that it is a lot of work playing tackle football, and yet no one really knows about us. There are so many young girls out there who can benefit from the women in the league and be encouraged by us. Unlike the men in the NFL with the million dollar contracts, we actually have to pay to play a sport that we love, yet we do the same thing as them and work just as hard if not harder, plus we have our motherly duties added on top of this.
Perseverance and determination are what keep me going. I have been told that I can be stubborn when it comes to things, but it is because of this determination that I have been able to overcome all of the obstacles that I have faced in life and press on to reaching my goals. My goal as a child was to play soccer in college, and I did whatever it took to reach this goal. My goal in college was to be on someone’s USA team, but I thought it would be for soccer! Now I'm reaching for bigger things, I'm going to start my own company and foundation, and help other teen moms achieve their goals as well! This season I plan on sponsoring a group of kids from my hometown, Charlottesville, Va, to come up to DC to watch one of my games and take a tour of DC (most of the kids there never get the chance to visit any place else). I always tell people to 'Reach for the stars, and when you get there reach higher.' Nothing can stop you from reaching your goals but yourself! Right after I had my son I did some motivational speaking for the Teen Health Department to help motivate and enlighten young girls & boys and I continue to do this every day, coaching in NFL Play 60 clinics, coaching my son’s soccer and football teams, and volunteering throughout the community. In 2008, I received an inaugural Game Changer award with other athletes including Shawn Merriman and Vernon Davis to name a few, for being a game changer on and off the field.
If there is anything you want to do in life, whether it is play football, a sport that people always told girls they could not play, don't let anyone stop you! Go get it, claim it, it's yours! Although I am proof that it is possible to beat the odds and not be a statistic of just another young black mother on welfare, I try to encourage abstinence. It's definitely not impossible, but when I look back and try to figure out how I did it, I can only point to the Lord above! If someone gets pregnant at a young age, at least they can look to me and know that there is hope. When I got pregnant, I had the choice of abortion, but one of my best friends told me 'God will never put anything on you that you can't handle.'