Anthony Weiner Sins, But Huma Abedin Pays the Price

He carried on the sexting, but many are laying the shame at the feet of his wife.
Huma Abedin has faced more shame for her husband's behavior than he has. (Photo: Andrew Savulich/Getty Images)
Jul 25, 2013· 2 MIN READ
A Bay Area native, Andri Antoniades has previously worked as a fashion industry journalist and a medical writer.

What can you say about Anthony Weiner’s latest sexting scandal? Plenty—the puns just write themselves and there seem to be an infinite number of them. But the far more interesting—and some would say confounding—part of the equation, is Weiner’s wife, Huma Abedin, who publicly stands by her husband.

Even Gloria Steinem wrote in an email to The New York Times, “I have no way of knowing whether Huma, for whom I have great respect, is responding out of new motherhood, the Stockholm syndrome or a mystery.”

Abedin has become the target of a shocking amount of criticism over the last day. Though it was solely her husband’s behavior that put the couple in the spotlight, it’s Abedin who’s become the target of most of the finger-wagging.

Her husband’s deviancy has essentially become her fault—her fault for staying, her fault for “letting it happen,” her fault for supposedly masterminding the whole thing to gain entrance into the storied towers of Women Who Are Married to Famous Politicians.

From the unfair to the downright outrageous, the theories of “What’s wrong with Huma?” just keep coming.

These are just a few of the posts that have made their way into feeds today, exemplifying the larger arguments leveled at Huma Abedin.

But the argument that’s noticeably absent from all the conjecture is this: Abedin’s reasons are nobody else’s business. She’s a grown up. And in this equation, she’s not the grown up who sent naked pictures of herself to anyone outside of her marriage.

Based on his actions, it’s understandable to revile Weiner as a politician, and to suspect that his behavior may be representative of how he could conduct himself in office—but it’s his behavior.

To assume that we know anything real about the couple’s intimate partnership, and about her specifically in that partnership, is as unjust to their relationship, and to Abedin, as Weiner’s own underhanded habits.